Whether it’s your sister’s or best friend’s wedding, being the maid of honor is a huge undertaking. You’re now a key wedding figure, and you’ll have a wealth of responsibility thrust upon you. It’s up to you to help their wedding day go as smoothly as possible, while also keeping the bride happy throughout. Obviously, if they didn’t think you were capable, they wouldn’t have given you such an important role. But it can still be easy to feel overwhelmed and daunted by the status you’ve acquired. If you’re feeling anxious and unsure about how to be a good maid of honor, read through these top tips.
Make time to help
The bride with have endless lists of things that need to be completed before their big day. Be enthusiastic and make time where you can to help her out. She might want a second opinion when trying on dresses or need help creating her laser cut wedding invites. If she doesn’t drive, she might need a lift to a potential venue or to meet with a photographer. Regularly ask her what she needs assistance with and organize times when you can help her out. Even if you can only help out a couple of evenings each week, this will help her out no end. It will also show that you really care about her big day and want to help her make it a day to remember.
Organize the bachelorette party
One of the most important tasks you will have to complete is hosting the bachelorette party. To make sure you plan an event the bride will thoroughly enjoy, ask her for some ideas. You should also find out who she would like to attend. Even if she only has a vague idea, it’s always better to ask than plan something she won’t like. Get the contact details of the other bridesmaids and arrange to meet up without the bride. You can discuss ideas, start researching venues and planning activities. Plus it will be a fantastic way of getting to know each other better.
Work behind the scenes
While you might have a short speech or recital at the ceremony, your duties as maid of honor don’t end there. You will be expected to continue working behind the scenes until the end of the reception. This will take a lot of pressure off the bride and allows her to enjoy her wedding day more. You should be the person who deals with any issues that arise from lack of seating to missing guests. You should also keep the bridal party in check and liaise with the venue managers. You could also make sure all the guests know about upcoming activities such as the bouquet toss and speeches. It will be a long day, but it will all be worthwhile.
Now you know what you have to do; you should hopefully be feeling less anxious and more confident. Just do as much as you can to help out and remain enthusiastic, even when the bride is having a meltdown. Just you being there with make your best friend’s big day feel extra special.